Intro!!!

Although born and raised in Vava'u, Tonga, I still very much embrace and am proud of my Samoan roots. Through the eyes of many, Samoa and Tonga are almost always seen as similar islands, with similar cultures, languages and traditions. However, although both ethnic groups do share similar characteristics, there are many obvious and subtle differences when studied further.
As said before, although both cultures have a lot in common, there are also many differences. Tonga is still a monarchy, while Samoa implements their traditional chief system with the American system. Unknown to many is a brutal past that continues to divide both cultures. The gender roles are also slightly different between the two cultures, in such a way that men are expected to cook in Samoan households and women are in charge of the kitchen. Also women in tonga, hold higher authoritative positions compared to women from Samoa.
Both Tonga and Samoa, still retain strong cultural traditions despite the influence of westernize influence over the years. Religion and family are the two main central points in both cultures and respect is the important value upheld, practice and taught in both ethnic groups.California has become the home of notorious Tongan and Samoan gangs, which is now spreading out to other states, particularly Utah (which I will talk more about later). Now years later, we see that both sides still hold grudges against each other.
Legend has it that once upon a time, Tonga took over Samoa and kept Samoans as slaves for at least 400 years, until one day the Samoans were able to regain control. Also, arguments over the true "high chief" stemmed from a disagreements in the past between these two islands.
Growing up, I never had a problem being a halfbreed. However, coming to California I discovered a raging war between Tongans and Samoans that has only gotten worse over the years. While the natives in Tonga and Samoa do not have any hostile feelings towards each other, the story in California is very different. And sad to say, this war is still very much alive, because of our past.
In closing, not only was my assimilation to the American culture quite difficult, I'm struggling to find a peaceful balance between my Samoan and Tongan side.